This is a repost of an article I bumped into when wandering around the web this morning. What would you have done?
When the Rabbi Finds Your Vibrator
My rabbi came to my daughter’s baby naming, but I really wish he stayed out of my nightstand
DISCLAIMER: Hi Dad. While I think it’s great that you read my posts on Kveller.com, this article is not for you. Kindly check back when I write about Shabbat dinner or how I’ve become allergic to falafel. Love, Your Nice Jewish Daughter.
OK. Ladies, I may have some bad news: While it’s usually OK to screw your brains out when you’re pregnant, using a vibrator may be a little more risky.
It’s like this: No matter how incredible and mind-blowing your partner may be in bed (or in the backseat of a car, or in the shower, or on a pool table,) orgasms from a vibrator are… well… more electrifying. Sorry B. It’s nothing personal. Anything battery operated that pulsates like 1,000 times a second is bound to deliver the goods harder and faster. And this in turn can stimulate uterine contractions.
It was a sad, sad day when I developed uterine irritability during the second trimester of my first pregnancy, and my doctor had to put me on pelvic rest. It was like he had stapled a giant HAZMAT sign to my Lady Business. And so, along with the whole enforced celibacy thing, I was forced to pack up my neon purple iRabbit (and I thought giving up alcohol was hard!) for the sake of my unborn child.
But then, as soon as my doctor gave me the green light, my iRabbit made it’s triumphant return to my bedside nightstand drawer where it lived happily ever after… until the day of my daughter’s Simchat Bat.
An Innocent Baby Naming
When our first child—a girl—was born on a sunny day in May, we decided we wanted our family to take part in this Rite of Passage. So, when M. was six weeks old, we invited close family and friends over for this special Jewish naming ceremony.
While our guests poured into our home, M. and I hung out in the bedroom, waiting to meet with our Rabbi to discuss a few things about the ceremony. Now, let me tell you, our Rabbi is awesome. I’ve known him since I was a little girl–he presided over all the services I went to with my family when I was growing up. He told the best Jewish scary stories at sleep-away camp. He officiated at my Bat Mitzvah. And my mom’s funeral.
It seemed fitting that he be part of this rite of passage, as well.
Also? Despite my stint poll dancing at Cat Club in San Francisco when I was 23, (seriously, Dad? Please tell me you’re not reading this) and the six weeks I spent dating a guy in the Israeli Mafia when I was in high school, I’m basically a Nice Jewish Girl. I always did the extra credit assignments during Hebrew School. I never snuck out of my bunk at sleep away camp. I was even selected to receive a special college scholarship from the synagogue. And the Nice Jewish Girl in me was happy that my Rabbi would see that B. and I were bringing our daughter into the community in such a meaningful way.
(“Wait, what does this have to do with vibrators?” I hear you cry. Trust me. I will tell you.)
The Rabbi arrived, greeted us with many “Mazel Tovs,” and we got down to business. He asked if M. was named for anyone, as is Ashkenazi Jewish custom. She is: In fact, the poor kid has not one, not two, but three names to honor the souls of my mom, my Aunt Judy, and my Grampa Fred, and B’s Saba Moshe and Savta Yeuhdit. Yes, the birth certificate lady at Kaiser wanted to cut me.
And Now We Get to the Juicy Part
Given the long list of family members we chose to honor when naming our baby, the Rabbi stood up and said he needed a pen and paper to write it all down. And before I could stop him, he reached over to open the bedside drawer.
I do not have a pen in my bedside drawer. Nor do I have paper.
Instead, I have a bottle of K-Y Jelly, enough Trojans to take over Troy, and my neon purple iRabbit vibrator.
As cliché as it sounds, it really was like the whole thing happened in slow motion. I tried to block him, but I was still a little unstable with the baby in my arms. And so, I had to make a split-second decision: either I drop M. on the floor and keep my secrets safe in the bedside drawer, or sacrifice my dignity while keeping my baby girl safe and sound. Well, Shalom, Dignity. Via Con Dios, and don’t let the door hit your ass on the way out.
To make matters worse, I’m pretty much a slam-bam-thank-you-iRabbit kind of gal, so I’m not always careful when I put my vibrator away. When the Rabbi grabbed the knob and pulled, the drawer stuck. At first, I thought I was saved. But then, with a mighty hand and an outstretched arm, the Rabbi yanked the drawer open, and in the process, somehow activated the iRabbit’s on-switch. Whirring, buzzing, and gyrating, this vibrator, unlike so many smaller, more discrete models, leaves very little to the imagination. It comes complete with a fairly girthy shaft and a well-formed glans, but in my defense, it does appear to becircumcised.
The Rabbi slammed the drawer shut and we both pretended that we couldn’t hear the rhythmic buzzing as we continued to discuss the upcoming ceremony.
“So, her first name is in honor your mother, may she be of blessed memory?” He shouted while the vibrator bumped in the drawer, and the entire bedside table shook, and he turned a festive shade of red as burgundy as the yarmulke he wore.
“Yes!” I yelled back.
And as the vibrator did a bump and grind against the drawer, my entire Jewish life flashed before my eyes—Sunday School story time in the synagogue sanctuary. Reciting the aleph bet at Hebrew School. Singing Hinei Ma Tov around the camp fire at sleep-away camp in Malibu. Reading from the Torah during my Bat Mitzvah. Singing in the choir duringHanukkah.
But still, even though I was mortified, I reveled in the complexity of the moment, because guess what? You can be a Nice Jewish Girl and a mother and still have a vibrator. Just ask my rabbi if you don’t believe me.
Sarah Tuttle-Singer is a contributing editor to Kveller. She is an L.A. expat (reluctantly) growing roots in Israel. Fuelled by an extra-shot latte, Sarah craves adventure whether she’s jumping out of a plane (with a parachute), discovering something that spins her mind in ten different directions, or taking a wrong turn straight into the unexpected. For more, please check outwww.thecrazybabymama.com .